Do you think you are a polite person?
I do think I’m a polite person. I treat other people nicely and patiently, and I do not insult anyone unless they truly deserve it. Also, I properly apologize when I make mistakes and I show my gratitude when other people help me.
Do you think people should be polite? Why?
People should always be polite – it shows that they have good manners and it helps them earn others’ respect. Being polite is like having good social skills – it can help one widen their social network, and this can positively influence one’s private and professional life.
How do people in your culture show good manners towards others?
In Vietnam, showing good manners is when a junior properly greets a senior and talks to him/her politely with sufficient and correct honorifics. Politeness also shows during a meal, when people need to wish the others to have a nice meal and when the younger ones have to wait for the older ones to finish before cleaning the table.
Have there been any changes in politeness in the past few decades?
I always have this feeling that people start being less and less polite to each other as time passes. Maybe one of the reasons lies in the etiquette and codes of conduct that have gradually changed over time. In the past, it was very important to behave according to one’s social class, and those of a lower rank had to obey those of a higher one. But today’s society is different – you need to work hard to earn somebody’s respect.
Who taught you to be polite?
This may sound weird but my friends actually taught me to be polite. I wasn’t a very nice person when I was a kid, and my parents often scolded me for being rude to elders. One day, I remember watching one of my friends talking really nicely and politely to a senior. She was praised, and so I started imitating her. My parents were really surprised when I changed my attitude, and they gave me some sweets as I was “being a good kid”. I have been showing my politeness to everyone ever since.
Do you think people should be polite? Why?
In my opinion, politeness should be considered as a basic virtue that every person must acquire. Being well-mannered may not get you straight to the highest position at work within one day, but would give you respect, trust and kindness from other people, all of which are beneficial for you in a long run.
Who taught you to be polite when you were a kid?
I guess similar to most people, I was raised to be a polite person by my parents. As I spent most of my time around them, they tried to set good example for me. They also gave me advice and told me moral stories about how being polite and kind to others can help me a lot in real life.
How people how politeness in your country?
We really value politeness and good manners in the UK, and there are many types of polite behavior. One of the first things we learn as children is to say “please” and “thank you”. As adults, I think we are careful not to be too direct in the language we use. For example, we would never say “Bring me the bill” in a restaurant because this kind of direct instruction would sound rude. It would be much more polite to say “Could we have the bill, please?”
How important is politeness for you?
Over a period of time, I do have realized that a certain degree of politeness is important for me. It does pinch a bit when someone talks harshly to me. With the closer group, one does not feel it much because you are communicating on the same level. But, with others, in my opinion, a certain level of respect and courtesy is expected.
Are we less polite with members of our families than with people we don’t know? I suppose it’s normal to be a bit more relaxed about politeness with family members. Most people tend to speak in a more informal way at home; in the UK, we still say “please” and”thanks”, but it’s fine to use colloquial language and things like nicknames that you would never use with someone you didn’t know.
How the way people show politeness changed?
People have definitely become more vocal, in my opinion. It could probably because we have become more globalized or because we have found a flair for passion. There is more of individuality coming into existence and people have loosened the ties with others. So, if a child believes in his or her dreams or opinions, they are more confident to fight against even the forces of love, like parents. Earlier, it was assumed whatever the parents thought off is correct. So, there was no question of conflict.